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01 Nov, 2010

Can the fear of success have an impact on your Self-Confidence? by Maggie Currie

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Can the fear of success have an impact on your Self-Confidence? by Maggie Currie

Often “being successful” can appear to be a double-edged sword.  On one side, you crave success and you put a tremendous amount of effort into achieving success.  Your perception of  success may be recognition/fame and financial rewards.  It may be that you can’t imagine your life without a constant striving for it.

On the other side there is the hidden inner fear, which is being afraid of hitting success big time. You can only imagine what comes with huge success. There is the money and a need to manage it. With money you may purchase more valuable possessions, they will also need to be managed. More importantly, with your success comes added responsibility. There are more people listening to what you have to say, there are more people following your advice, you become so much more influential.

It is hardly surprising then that you get cautious somewhere along the way and start asking questions, such as: ‘Do I really want all that responsibility?’ ‘What if it becomes too stressful?’ ‘Maybe just a little success will do, I don’t need to make it too big!’

With those self-imposed limitations, it is very likely that you will not achieve breakthrough success, instead you stop somewhere on the way and no matter what effort you into it, nothing happens.  Your subconscious has decided to sabotage the whole process and that’s the end of that.

How does this situation impact your self-confidence?  It impacts it in a very negative way. You stop believing in yourself and come to false conclusions about your mediocrity, insufficient capabilities, weaknesses, etc.

If you recognise something of the above in yourself, there is one thing to keep in mind.  The journey to real success is long and unpredictable. Some people have taken many years to become an ‘overnight success’.  If you believe you don’t have it in you to think big because you perceive it intimidates you, don’t despair.  Take tiny steps first towards your goal and get used to the taste of success gradually.  By the time you have reached your dream “destination” or level of success, you will have become accustomed to it to the point of being able to handle it comfortably.

Any success will boost your self-confidence, no matter how huge or tiny, and therefore you should enjoy and celebrate each and every success, no matter how small or big.  One day they will bring you the success you desire.

I believe that you should be inspired and motivated with a varied menu of  training courses, workshops, one-to-one or group coaching, on-line courses, mentoring or any combination that suits you to achieve your success.  

It is my vision that everyone shall become the very best version of themselves and I believe to do this, you must begin to transform yourself. Beginning with the fundamentals – loving, respecting and trusting yourself. Without those three fundamental things nothing in your life will change.

By Maggie Currie

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November 1st, 2010 at 2:35 pm

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3 | Betty

November 2nd, 2010 at 12:20 am

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Great post! I read every word! It reminds me of a website I just read called Looks Great Naked (Google it!). It’s a humorous blog about overcoming a negative self esteem and focuses on loving yourself and being who you are. All very positive like yours!

4 | Sybilla Davis

November 2nd, 2010 at 10:01 am

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Excellent blog. I can relate to those self limiting beliefs and I think there a tendency, particularly these days, to imagine that everyone who is successful achieved that “overnight”. It is good to be reminded that it takes time, commitment and sustained belief to attain success and that tiny steps add up. As a Coach who gives talks to people who have been made redundant your paragraphs on fundamentals and increasing self confidence both contain points that I emphasise too.

5 | Mara

November 2nd, 2010 at 2:53 pm

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Oh yes, this is a bit my problem. I grew up rich and know that it is not always so great to be rich. I disliked this friendly attention, that was directed to the richness not me. Well, every coin has two sides and you have to choose one. I am on the way to prepare myself to get used to the rich side again. Reading about it from the other side of the coin is also helpful.

6 | Debbie Robinson

November 2nd, 2010 at 7:54 pm

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Hi Maggie,
Can I have your permission to use this on my website? I will of course credit you!
Warmest regards
Debbie Robinson

7 | Tomas

November 2nd, 2010 at 8:55 pm

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In case you need to be pushed to accomplish your goals, Make sure that people close by you know about your current self improvement goals so that there’s enough public pressure on you all the time. Reporting to them would probably make you think a lot about letting go of your goal setting.

8 | John Aspden

January 12th, 2011 at 10:11 pm

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Tomas:

What do you mean to ‘push someone to achieve their goals, or ‘public pressure’ & ‘reporting to them’. You can’t coach by brow-beating a client. You take hearts and minds with you in a process that as Maggie says can take time. Aim not to confuse process with production – we’re not making sausages.

9 | Compassion by Rasheed Ogunlaru | The Coaching Academy Blog

November 1st, 2011 at 5:02 pm

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[...] feel afraid? Perhaps afraid of life situations, challenges or change? This is a natural thing. If fear is very much present in your life I want you to look at yourself and the situations you find your [...]

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