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19 Jun, 2012

Childs Play And What Can You Learn From It – Saira Nisa

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Childs Play And What We Can Learn From It - Saira Nisa

Have you ever wondered why as a child you had all the will in the world to be a superhero or just somebody absolutely fantastic and now as a grown up you seem to have lost the will to live? We’ve lost our motivation and don’t know how to get it back.

Why? Children are human too (yes they are, if yours aren’t then you need to get your own DNA checked out) so what’s the difference?

Well kids have no responsibility and we have all the worries in the world and therefore no time for anything else. That’s the answer I hear so often from adults.

Wrong answer! I’m probably going to shock you here but children are more responsible than we are as adults or to use a term from Stephen Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People “response-able”.

They cry over spilt milk but very soon they get over it, then they go and break your prized vase, get into trouble, cry again and then go and find something else that’s caught their attention.

They turn the playroom upside down and break their toys and get into more trouble and look sad for a while until another toy they missed has caught their attention.

They run around laughing and shouting and making noise and get told off once again, they get upset but then they get over it and find something else which entertains them.

They run around without a care for the obstacles in their paths, they fall down, cry for a bit and get up and start running around again forgetting earlier that they fell down doing the very thing and running over the same ground they just covered.

Imagine an adult has spilt milk – we curse and wipe it up and slam the milk bottle back in the fridge, huh, don’t want it now. (What a tantrum).

We break our most prized vase and then regret it for life. Well it had to break someday and now it has, so get over it. Yes it was worth something but all things have an end, even human lives so please don’t spend your life pining away over an inanimate object. Kids know better than to do this.

We turn the rooms upside down looking for something we’ve mislaid, our own fault first of all and then we’re mad at ourselves because now we have to tidy up the mess we’ve created. Kids only turn the room upside down when they’re having fun or they’re exploring.

Now the only time we laugh at ourselves is when we fall over but then we feel embarrassed – kids don’t bother with the latter emotion. They cry remember, get up and run again.

Now don’t say we as adults are more mature and deal with the same situations differently. We as adults are more able at choosing how we respond to all the same situations however it is the children who show themselves as more response-able; they are able to choose how they react and respond to a situation and each time they come out stronger and laughing.

We could do well to choose to take motivation from them and choose not to think negatively on a situation.

“A child can always teach an adult three things: to be happy for no reason, to always be busy with something, and to know how to demand with all his might that which he desires.” (Paulo Coelho: The Fifth Mountain)
Next time you run out motivation and wonder where to look to for it, look to the little things; look to children who never give up no matter how many times adults scold them to stop.

They choose to carry on, they choose to have another go when you’ve turned your back, they choose to get up again where we give up and that is how they learn how to walk, run, climb those stairs, open doors and lock themselves in the bathroom. They constantly challenge themselves and dare to try new things, why don’t you?!

9 Responses to "Childs Play And What Can You Learn From It – Saira Nisa"

1 | Lynne

June 20th, 2012 at 1:54 am


Very nice post. Learned a lot from this post. Thanks for sharing.

2 | Doulla

June 20th, 2012 at 6:45 pm


Fabulous post. Children are inspiring; it’s great that they carry on until they get it. How many times do we try and then give up…? Thank you Saira for posting this.

3 | Laura

June 20th, 2012 at 9:37 pm


What a brilliant feature. I loved this article and think there is so much truth behind it, there really is a lot we can learn from children. Very inspiring article.

4 | Taran Hans-Dhillon

June 20th, 2012 at 10:21 pm


A great read, Saira. On a lighter note, children may have learnt to try again and again through their nursery poem…Insy winsy spider!
Anyway, well done to you, we need articles of this nature to motivate adults to keep trying and not give up and lose heart so easily.

5 | Raksana Qureshi

June 21st, 2012 at 9:02 am


Saira that was very interesting and so true. Thank you.

6 | Norbert Hennemann

June 25th, 2012 at 5:08 pm


Very true. Lift your mood, be happy! You have the choice.
Hennemann Coaching

7 | Heather Gibbon

June 28th, 2012 at 12:01 pm


Love this post. We can learn a lot from children. The wonder and excitement at the little things in life, the sheer happiness, fun and laughter for no reason, expressing emotions fully and then letting them pass. They live very much in the present moment.
We can remember being a child and learn from that if we let ourselves.
Thanks for uplifting my day

8 | Aliya

July 5th, 2012 at 7:34 pm


I smiled all the way through this article! Next time I see my kids smear jam all over my walls I might just laugh and join in….thats if I haven’t got too many other responsibilities!! ; )

9 | Saira Nisa

July 15th, 2012 at 7:23 pm


THANK YOU SO MUCH to EVERYONE who has read my article and for your wonderful feedback. I’m honestly overwhelmed by the comments from you all. I checked this page as 2 lovely ladies on yesterday’s accelerator day recognised me from my name and face as they read my article and one lady told me she had commented! So, I came to read her comment and instead see lots! you have all inspired me to continue writing and I hope you all enjoy future articles. Thank you All. x

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