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01 Nov, 2011

Compassion by Rasheed Ogunlaru

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Compassion by Rasheed Ogunlaru

One of the greatest gifts that you can give to yourself – and everyone else – is compassion.

During my life journey probably the most magical discovery or re-discovery has been compassion. It has been enriching to me and has helped me to appreciate, respect and help others. If you often find that you are afraid or numbed by life the compassion is likely to be the tonic that you need.

Healer of pain:

Many of us carry around a lot of pain and baggage from the past. We feel hurt by things that have and that haven’t happened to us. Sometimes this links to difficulties, loneliness, abandonment, abuse – often rooted early on in our lives.

I want you to gently look at this weight that you are carrying? Is this stuff your fault – if not let it be. If it was your fault – did you do this from fear or ignorance – if so let it be.

Much of the baggage we carry in life is from things in our infancy prior to our control. When you recognise that yourself and others have faults and fears you will realise that actions that may have happened to you were not about you. By seeing this and by being compassionate you can move on. Otherwise you will remain stuck. Once you are aware of being stuck the choice to stay stuck or move forward is your choice.

If you are compassionate you will be able to move ahead.

An antidote to fear:

Do you sometimes feel afraid? Perhaps afraid of life situations, challenges or change? This is a natural thing. If fear is very much present in your life I want you to look at yourself and the situations you find your self in the lens of compassion.

When you look gently and kindly at yourself, others and situations they change. It’s a bit like being tense and walking past a big dog – the dog senses it and may become tense or bark. When you are relaxed, compassionate and alert you pass the same dog that is at ease with you. They may even bark, but you remain unconcerned. For in your compassion you know that the dog like yourself has fears, doubts and insecurities. But by you being gentle and at peace you help bring about this in your environment.

As you become more compassionate to people in your life you will see them become more kind to themselves and to you.

Freedom of wisdom:

Compassion is the birthplace of freedom and of wisdom. It is free of charge. It is available right now without a prescription, without a need to see your GP or doctor. You will be amazed at how many mild forms of ‘depression’ it will alleviate.

Compassion is wisdom because for the first time perhaps you will look beyond your own conditioned eyes and mindset into the eyes and mindset of others. You will move from limited assumptions of them to a deeper empathy, connection, dialogue – and dare I say communion.

Compassion invites us to find our true nature by discovering our deep connection and relationship with all other people and all else that we discover in our world.

7 Responses to "Compassion by Rasheed Ogunlaru"

1 | Shital

November 2nd, 2011 at 12:29 pm


Thank you Rasheed on a great article! I hope it will inspire people to look beyond the dictionary definition of compassion to the many deeper levels of the meaning and the application of it both in therapy and on a personal level.


2 | Femi Okenla

November 2nd, 2011 at 5:04 pm


this article on compassion is soul-lifting

3 | Peter

November 2nd, 2011 at 7:04 pm


Thank you for revealing the true nature of compassion. It gives empathy a gentle stance. “But for the grace of God go I “

4 | Paul Grace

November 2nd, 2011 at 11:20 pm


Thank you, Rasheed for such a beautiful article. A message which I’m sure many will find comforting and insightful, just as I have. May we see many more of such pieces of work in the future.

5 | Karen Wyness

November 3rd, 2011 at 9:45 pm


What a beautiful piece! Can feel the emotion behind the writting.

6 | Iesha Slater

November 3rd, 2011 at 10:34 pm


The article highlights many levels of healing and enlightenment. The main point which stood out for me is having compassionate people around, when one gets stuck!

7 | Margaret Hazle

November 9th, 2011 at 2:18 am


What a profound input you have and a gentle and uncomplicated way of expressing such truths. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and discernment with us and you have set us a personal and individual challenge to take things forward after evaluating them at a higher almost spiritual level. I would love to see more of your work – may you feel blessed by the lives you have touched even in these few lines of encouragement! Awesome – thanks.

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