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01 Dec, 2009

Coping with Christmas – 3 Tips to Success & No Stress

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Preparation, moderation and communication are the ‘3 wise keys’ to surviving the financial and emotional stress and strains of Christmas during the economic downturn, says one of the UK’s leading life coaches today.

Rasheed Ogunlaru whose clients include pop stars and entrepreneurs says:

“We needlessly stretch our finances, family relations and waste-lines at Christmas. While it’s a season of good cheer for children, it often spells tears, stress, debt, break-up and unhappiness for adults. The secret to a Happy Christmas it is preparation, communication and moderation: Plan in advance, avoid arguments and spend, eat and drink in relation to your ability”, says Rasheed Ogunlaru, whose clients have included pop stars and entrepreneurs.

The Three Wise Keys of Christmas

1.    Preparation:

  • Set a budget you can afford and stick to it: don’t give in all the ads, expectation and hype.
  • Decide who you do and don’t want to spend time with over Xmas and for how long.
  • Give everyone time and space to plan and to adjust/ overcome any disappointment.

2.    Moderation:

  • Are times tough? Set a gift truce. Agree not to buy each other gifts, or only buy for kids.
  • Know your limits when it comes to food and drink
  • Partying? Have fun but be measured – work and social relationships can be harmed at Xmas

3.    Communication:

  • Discuss sensitively: tell all concerned what you will / won’t be doing well in advance.
  • Avoid arguments – everyone can be on edge so step back to safer ground.
  • Bury the hatchet: use this time of peace and goodwill to end feuds and fights.

“The silver lining to the downturn, redundancies and tough times in 2009 is that thousands of people will turn from spending absurd amounts of money to spending lots of quality time with loved ones – and getting their values, life balance and priorities right. My Christmas wish is to see more fitter, happier people- and fewer with Christmas induced debt in 2010.” says Ogunlaru.

Rasheed Ogunlaru is one of the UK’s leading life / business coaches and motivational speakers. His clients include entertainers, entrepreneurs, politicians the public and organisations. He Author of The Gift of Inner Success is the partner Business Coach of British Library.

3 Responses to "Coping with Christmas – 3 Tips to Success & No Stress"

1 | Jacqueline Pigdon

December 1st, 2009 at 12:01 pm


Excellent tips!

As a Coach and being part of a medium sized family, Christmas can be a time where family personalities have their biggest chance to clash!

Jacqueline Pigdon

2 | Trevor Aird

December 1st, 2009 at 1:27 pm


I agree with the article and would like to add …
Set an outcome for every event you attend.

Say for a family meal
ask what do i wan to achieve
what emotions do i want to experience.
what experience do i want to have have.
classically people say ooh i hope we dont have an argument this year and lo and behold they have an arguument.

I have lost a stone in the last 2 months I for one will not be pigging out.
Its a question of values like the debt issue is it worth sabotaging the next 4 months for one or 2 days of lust ha ha :)


3 | Sigrid

December 9th, 2009 at 11:00 am


Here is another coach chimming in with her two cents!

I loved the advice above. The one thing though that I think is missing within these 3 tips is thinking about how you can get excited about each one!

In that emotion is the fuel for the motivation to accomplish anything in life, adding this element in ensures success in changing any habit.

For example:

Preparation: Sticking to a budget this year, when this may be new for you, could well be a serious downer…
What can you do to get excited about spending less? What can you reuse from last year instead of going out and buying new stuff?
Imagine how good you are going to feel when you organize Christmas logistics! And how much free time and energy you will have for enjoying friends and family!

Moderation: Again, restriction doesn’t feel fun or festive -lets see if we can switch our perspective about moderation and get excited about it!
How can you feel proud of limiting your consumtion this year and teach your children about this value?
What gifts can you make yourself that you can get really excited about?
Imagine how eating and drinking til you pop makes your body feel terrible…what would it be like to honor your body this holiday and still have fun?

Communicate: Deciding to talk more opening during this time can be hard for people.
How step into a place of love for yourself and other and communicate from this place?

Merry Christmas to all!


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