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14 Mar, 2010

Far Fetched Goals….. Never!

Posted by: The Coaching Academy In: Coaching Articles|Life Coaching Articles|Personal Success

Emma WimhurstWe all talk about goals don’t we?  

As coaches, we really do understand about goals – and probably more than most – we work with our clients in establishing goals every single day of our lives.  

There are many different types of goals aren’t there?    Short term goals, easy to achieve goals, long term goals and perhaps those very high-in-the-sky type of goals, which you rarely share with anyone – as they are probably a little too far fetched……

I have recently achieved one of these “far fetched” goals and I can’t tell you how exciting it is to be able to share it with you….. (now that I have achieved it!)

It all started about 2.5 years ago.    I had taken a decision in October 2003 to sell my business and spend more time with my son, who was then approaching 5 and who had just started in reception at school and with the new baby which was due in January 2004.    At first the novelty of not working was brilliant.   I was free – I hadn’t had total freedom for many years, and by that I mean, when you work for yourself you are very rarely able to totally switch off.   I was able to take my son to school,  pick him up from school and even take up those offers branded around the playground – “Oooh, let’s do lunch”……      I suppose if I am honest, it didn’t take very long at all to realise that this new found freedom ( even with a then 5 year old and a new born) was not going to be enough for me.   I didn’t admit it to anyone though.   I couldn’t!   I hadn’t learned at that point in my life to admit how I was feeling.    And also, so many people had expressed their opinions when they learned that I had sold my business comments along the lines of – “Oh, you will so miss working” … and “gosh!  You… a stay-at-home Mum… never!”……    So I busied myself in my day-to-day life, telling myself constantly, that I was very lucky to be able to stay at home with my children.     To fill my time, we moved house – I was bored and enjoyed researching things on the internet and houses are one of those freely-available commodities…..   And then to solve my boredom issue even more – I decided to have another baby! Along came baby no.3 – and then I wondered what on earth I had done.    

Now I had two children under the age of 3 and a boy of 7 – and yes, I was busy – but I didn’t feel fulfilled from an ability standpoint.   After several months of crying and sheer disbelief at my life – and blaming all those around me for the situation I found myself in, I realised that I needed to take personal responsibility for my life and to take some action.    After all, no one else would be able to get me out of this pickle – I had put myself there in the first place (well, with a little help from my husband, but that is a different story!).

Once I had determined that it was down to me – I started to question myself on what I would like to do with my life and through researching on the internet I came across a website – and I was intrigued by their offer of a Free Coaching Weekend.   I booked myself onto the next one at Southampton.   I arrived on the Saturday morning – not really knowing what to expect – and I found myself in a room with 120 other people, learning from Sarah Urqhart, Andrew Jenkins and Bev James all about Coaching.    I was hooked.   Totally and utterly hooked.   The whole approach to coaching appealed to me – and the opportunities were endless.   I would be able to use all of my experience in my “previous  life” and combine with coaching skills.   I suddenly found a purpose – and it was without second thought that I joined The Coaching Academy.

OK – you may all be thinking – where is this going?  What has this to do with the far-fetched goal I referred to at the beginning of this blog….?

As I sat in a hotel in Southampton one September weekend, I realised that I wanted to present to 100s of people;   as I watched Sarah, Andrew and Bev I envied their ability to be able to stand on a stage, engage with the audience and deliver real-value content – and at the same time, really enjoy it!    I wanted to be able to do that – and for The Coaching Academy.    My far-fetched goal – was to do just that – present for The Coaching Academy.

A couple of Saturday’s ago, I achieved this goal.   It has taken 2.5 years – to achieve it – but I have!  I presented to 28 delegates on The Small Business Coaching Course Diploma – Customer Focus.    I was nervous to start with and had written in huge letters on my notes – to SLOW DOWN but I really enjoyed the day and I am delighted to report that my feedback was really good….   Thank you to everyone who attended my day.

The reason for sharing this with you – is that if you have one of those far-fetched goals – which you haven’t really shared with anyone – and you feel that its never going to happen, don’t give up!   Be really clear on what it is you want to achieve,   assess your own desire, and then – go for it!

By Emma Wimhurst

2 Responses to "Far Fetched Goals….. Never!"

1 | Jacqueline Pigdon

March 17th, 2010 at 10:21 am


Thanks for sharing your story Emma, I really enjoy hearing how other coaches became a coach in the first place.

I also liked the way you outlined some of the real life challenges you went through beforehand.

I have many of these too which I find are so helpful to my coaching clients in helping them gain the success they do.

Live Your Best Life
Jacqueline Pigdon

2 | Satish Thaker

March 17th, 2010 at 11:04 am


Emma, thanks for sharing your story. I’m in similar boat. I’ve started the course with the Academy but facing few challenges on the way. It is my far fetched goal to get back on track and become a succesful confidence coach & help those youngesters who are at the cross road and can’t decide the direction. I want them to find their own Northen Star.
Inspiring stories like yours will hopefully inspires others to correct their courses.
thanks again,
It is challenging to find the Northern Star but easy when the mind is focused.

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