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26 Jul, 2011

Love Conquers All by Dee Harding

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Love Conquers All by Dee Harding

Everyone wants to be in control of their lives, to feel good and ultimately be happy. The fact is that you can stop looking outside yourself to find what you are looking for. You have everything you need within you right now.

You must: “Begin to love and approve of yourself” - Louise Hay

You must learn to believe that you have the power to consciously and deliberately create the reality you deserve. You must trust in your ability to become truly self empowered.

Real power is not having power over other people, it is having power over yourself it’s the ability to take charge of and master your emotions instead of them taking charge of you, it is about finding and using the unquenchable power within you and using it in a positive creative way.

Empowerment means being a cause that is, choosing to take full responsibility for your life. It is not blaming others for what has happened in your life. Many people choose not to take responsibility for their lives and by doing so they relinquish their power , they choose instead to be at effect and become disempowered, disaffected and stuck in a downward negative spiral.

If a person chooses to give away their power they are no longer in control of their lives. If they are not taking control of their lives then someone else will. By choosing not to take responsibility a person may become a disheartened, disillusioned and powerless victim who ultimately loses their freedom .and self respect. A person must recognise that they are absolutely responsible for their choices they are making and have made and that they are responsible for all that has happened in their lives. Even if a person does not want to make a choice the very act of not making a choice is a choice in itself.

A person may sometimes choose to be a victim as it seems easier than the effort it would take to be take responsibility and do something about the situation in which they find themselves. Although a person always has the power to choose again and reclaim their power,outdated thinking and fear can distort a person’s beliefs in their ability to do so.

Empowerment is all about being able to trust yourself enough to realise that you are the one who knows what is best for you.It is about listening to your inner knowing which communicates to you through your intuition.

If a person is to become self empowered they must learn to trust their intuition they must – stop thinking that others know what is best for them and start trusting themselves – stop asking others to tell them what to do and start trusting their inner voice – stop doubting themselves and start trusting themselves – stop ignoring how they feel and start listening to how they are feeling – stop dismissing their “inner guidance system” and start listening closely to its messages.

Real power is non abusive power which must be developed if we are to succeed.

The seven sources of non abusive power as described by Steiner are:


Love,  Balance, Passion, Control, Communication, Information & Transcendence

All of these powers are have their value and each have its unique capacity to bring about worthwhile and sustainable change. The one which underpins all others is love.

The power of love is often underestimated. Love has the power to conquer all things; Love has the power to bring people together and to give them hope in the face of adversity.

There are three main realms of love: Love of Self, Love of Others, Love of Truth

Love of Self

Self love is not about being self centred or egotistical. It is about accepting and appreciating yourself exactly as you are. Massive self love is essential if you are to keep firmly focused on what you want, stand your ground and follow your unique path even when others ridicule or lose faith in you.

Love of Others

Love of self without love of other s is simply selfish and does not emit the kind of vibes that are conducive to attracting the success you want into your life. Love of others without love of self turns us into rescuers and can result in us becoming ineffectual and losing self respect. Love of oneself and others can only be sustained by being aware of and taking into account both your feelings and the feelings of others.

Love of Truth

Love of truth is important in this “Information Age” where we are constantly being bombarded with so much in informatiin in an ever changing world.

If you want to be empowered you must ultimately take responsibility for every area in your life and accept the part that you play in creating your reality Y0u must release the need to always be in control and start accepting life as it is You must stop resisting change and start realising that change is an inevitable part of your life You must discover and embrace the power that is within you and learn how it can serve you .You must allow your strong unique and amazing self to emerge Above all you must stop taking things for granted and start feeling grateful for what you already have in your life.

There is nothing more important than feeling good and loving your life. Give yourself permission to get back in control of your life and to be truly happy. Remember the power of the love that is within you and when you feel like giving up pinch yourself and say:

Amor Vincit Omnia (Love Conquers All)

3 Responses to "Love Conquers All by Dee Harding"

1 | Alex Kitchen

July 27th, 2011 at 9:17 pm


Perfect! Just perfect! Loved every word.

2 | Paul Grace

July 27th, 2011 at 10:16 pm


I really appreciate the message of this blog, a truly heartfelt message which brings with it so much hope. The balance of self love and love of others is explained so well here and is very refreshing to read.

3 | Jane Westwell

July 28th, 2011 at 11:23 am


We don’t have as much control as is promulgated here. It can be burdensome and misleading to suggest you can control everything in your life – even results. The popular approach is that life results are the caused by some state of mental belief. I suggest to you it is the other way around.

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