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26 Jun, 2012

Resistance To Change

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Resistance To Change

You can reclaim your power and get your life back on track when you learn how to stop resisting change.

Our resistance to real change makes it so much harder to achieve. After all, if we didn’t resist so much, would it be quite so hard?

When someone is “trying to change” and finding it a struggle, they say:

“I just can’t seem to do it.”

“I don’t know why but I always end up back at square one.”

“I’ve tried so many times that I don’t bother anymore.”

“It’s just me – it’s the way I am.”

“It’s alright for you! I wouldn’t know where to start.”

What all these things have in common are:

  • Justification
  • Powerlessness
  • Indulgence
  • Victim-mentality
  • Lack of self-belief

These are all different ways to resist change.

But why resist being the best we can be? Why would we resist moving on, trying new things and playing with new ways of seeing ourselves?

Let’s play with this for a moment

Take something in your own life – a change you’ve tried to make for a long time, but which has just never happened. Perhaps it seemed so difficult that you kept falling back into your old ways. Find a place where you won’t be disturbed for five or ten minutes.

Let yourself fully consider the following possibility: imagine that there was no resistance to this change. None. Just none. Imagine that. No resistance to this change what would that be like? What might you do with no resistance with this change? That’s all. Just sit with that for five or ten minutes .

Afterwards, ask yourself what you noticed. What did you discover about yourself? And how can you apply what you learned?

A client did this exercise and realised all the reasons why she had given for not moving forward with a particular change were simply excuses. Having seen that for herself , she was able to move forward quickly.

Knowing that it is yourself doing the resisting (as opposed to fighting some external force) is a giant step to claiming your power in terms of:

  • Knowing how you are resisting this change.
  • Discovering why you had resisted it.
  • Shifting your approach to take the actions and enjoy this change you need.

Acknowledge the use of your own power to resist change means rather than using your power against yourself, you can begin to use it for yourself.

3 Responses to "Resistance To Change"

1 | Lynne

June 29th, 2012 at 8:02 am

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Very inspiring post. I think most of the people that resist changes are afraid and not yet ready to accept changes. They want assurance and afraid to make mistake.

2 | Hennemann Coaching

July 2nd, 2012 at 6:50 pm

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Question your limiting beliefs and make that ultimate decision!

3 | Ankhara

July 10th, 2012 at 5:23 pm

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Resistance to change comes up alot in the career coaching that I do for aspiring senior leaders. Those in teams who resist change seem to often be the nightmare of enthusiastic go getting aspiring leaders. Quite often I think we loose sight of the importance of compassion for ourselves and others in times of very significant change and uncertainty. It’s also often not easy to be able to admit to feeling fearful or inadequate or wanting to impress – I regularly check in with myself on these feelings – and without acknowledgement of where we truly are its almost impossible to really move forward – at least on a strong foundation. We are it seems fundamentally creatures of habit and if we are to embrace change as a wonderful gift of being here on planet earth and flow with the river of life, it’s a skill we would be wise to learn.

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