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27 Sep, 2010

Why being confident is the X factor of 2010

Posted by: The Coaching Academy In: Coaching Articles|Personal Success

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Believing in your abilities and having the confidence to try out new things has never been more important than it is now. There are so many ways our confidence is being undermined on a daily basis.  And for any number of reasons.   Who doesn’t know of a friend or family member who has lost their job, or is at risk in the next round of cutbacks?   And if you are still in a job, chances are that you’re being asked to do the work of colleagues who were not so lucky.   If you are leaving school or college there are no jobs to be had. Small business owners have to work harder and longer hours just to keep their heads above water.  Your house may be worth less than you paid for it which seriously challenges your future financial plans.  And on top of all this there is the endless flow of bad news from the media around the clock with promises of even more public service cutbacks, tax rises, job losses, high energy prices and years of austerity.

It’s no wonder that many of us don’t feel optimistic at the moment and that means confidence levels are right down. Yet the challenges we all face are all too real and, rather than bury our heads in the sand, many us will need to make some major changes in our lives.   And the key is that in order to face these challenges and be successful in making these changes you need to believe in yourself…you need to be CONFIDENT. 

So, what’s the best way to get the negative messages and thoughts out of your head and boost your flagging confidence levels?  One of the truest sayings from Henry Ford is ‘whether you think you can or can’t, you’re right’, so you need to find ways to believe that you can succeed. Everybody wants something different in life; some want to get a first job or a new job, others want to make their current job more enjoyable but don’t know how, whilst others want to strike out in a totally new direction.  It is having confidence in yourself that stops you saying such negative things as “this is an impossible time to make a change” or “if I don’t try, I can’t fail”.

As coaches, people come to us with a range of issues where they want to make some sort of major change. But nine times out of ten, they don’t know how to move forward; they feel stuck within their situation. We find that “being stuck” and low confidence levels usually go hand in hand.  It is so much easier to make a plan to move forward once you believe in your own abilities – and we don’t believe it is true that some people are born confident and others are not.  Just ask any new mother if their baby lacks confidence and they will tell you that their newborn has no problems in letting them know what they want in the most confident manner.   

However, over the years many people get knocked around by life’s challenges and lose that initial confidence. Our role is to help them rediscover it and build it into an ability that allows them to do the things they really want to do.

There are a number of tools and techniques that we use to boost confidence and it isn’t a case of one size fits all. However there are three golden rules to get you going. The first is to focus on what you want. It’s no good saying “I just want more confidence,” you have to be specific about what you need it for. For instance saying “I want the confidence to apply for a new job” immediately provides a  purpose. The second rule is you must take action, however small. It is only by doing something different that you will see and experience progress and this in turn will boost your confidence.   Just thinking about it isn’t enough. Finally, you need to keep working at it. You wouldn’t expect to be an expert driver with just one lesson; you have to keep practising in order for it come naturally. It’s the same with your confidence. You have to keep working at it to make it your X factor and to help you overcome life’s challenges and make those all-important changes that you really want. 

Article by Nicol Chaplin & Jane Eames, West London coaches specialising in confidence and personal performance.

5 Responses to "Why being confident is the X factor of 2010"

1 | jayne telfer

September 28th, 2010 at 9:56 am


Stuck in a bit of a rut over the last 2 or 3 weeks .. bored with myself and need to come out the other side – AND get on track with my Coaching qualification and coursework …
This article was really helpful, thanks in lots of personal ways,


2 | Denise Mulligan

September 28th, 2010 at 3:42 pm


A really encouraging article which reminded me we all stuck at times and can do with support. Sometimes life just gets in the way!


3 | Sue Germain

October 1st, 2010 at 11:42 am


This article has given me extra motivation this morning. Been in a stale patch recently and now moving forward again with my coach training after session with my coaching buddy. Loved the Henry Ford saying;have written it down to stick up at eye level. Also heard Tom Jones on Desert Island Discs this morning and was inspired by his enduring and unflagging confidence in himself and joyous approach to life.

4 | Claire Fuller

October 1st, 2010 at 4:33 pm


I think this is a superb article, confidence is sooo important and people do tend to think that they can’t become it, if they weren’t born that way… but they so can! I have helped 100s of people over the last 7 years to increase their confidence and the results are very rewarding. From teens to late middle agers – it’s never too late to learn, and certainly it makes anything seem much more possible if we believe that we CAN do something. Try it for yourself!

5 | Patrick Josef

October 1st, 2010 at 8:42 pm


This is a REALLY and RIGHT on TIME for me….!

Have put too many Things on the Shelf of LIFE…. and this is Just what I needed to Kick Start and Get that Shelf CLEARED…….On my way to making my Dreams Real… No Shelf Needed anymore….


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